What is “Normal” Sleep?
Newborns sleep in short segments and don't have regular sleep cycles
"When babies sleep with or near their parents, they are not being spoiled, they are being made to feel secure and accepted."
-Dr. Lendon Smith -
Normal Infant Sleep
Human babies are born more immature than other mammalian species. Physical contact with their parent is how human infants are able to compensate for their inability to regulate their own temperature or produce sufficient antibodies to protect them from illness. Frequent physical contact also helps ensure that the infant and parent bond in a physiological and social way. Lots of physical contact between infant and parent is more than a lovely social idea, it is what an infant needs to thrive. These needs do not change during the nighttime hours. That’s why western parenting recommendations around infant sleep make nighttime parenting so difficult. Many of the society’s current expectations of “normal” infant sleep are based on research that was conducted on formula fed infants. Frequent night wakings can be normal well past the first year of life. Similar to the skills of crawling, walking, and talking, sleeping without waking develops over time. As caregivers, we can help foster positive sleep conditions for our baby and practice our own good sleep hygiene.
Good Sleep Hygiene versus Sleep Training
Good sleep hygiene simply means having good sleep habits, but since sleep is so varied, “good sleep habits” can look a little different for everyone. Here are just a handful of recommendations that most experts agree on:
Avoid electronics at least 30 min or more before bed.
Maintain a regular bedtime and wake time, even on your days off.
Avoid caffeine and alcohol 4-6 hours before bed
Complete mindful relaxing activities each night before bed. Ex: Stretching, meditation, breathing
What does this mean for new parents? It’s never to late to start working on your own sleep hygiene. That way when you are shaping your own child’s healthy sleep patterns, the entire family can sleep well together! Good sleep hygiene for an infant can look very similar to adults. Try to avoid having the infant in a room with visible screens, bright lights, or loud music. As bedtime approaches, move slowly, speak softly, and be present with your baby. You can also create a brief bedtime routine that you do nightly before bed to help trigger sleepiness. Some examples may be: reading a rhythmic bed time story (babies love repetition), you can give your baby a five to ten minute massage prior to dressing them in their pajamas, or sing them a lullaby. There is no one way that works for every baby, just like no two adults sleep the same. It may take time to figure out what works best for your family and your baby. That’s why many parents may feel frustrated with sleep programs or sleep training. These often require parents to “prescribe” to certain techniques, beliefs, or ideas around sleep. While some of the techniques may work for some babies, for others they may not work at all. If sleep training causes your infant to cry for long periods of time or makes you feel anxious, upset, or sad, it is probably not a good fit for your family. Sleep and night time parenting aren’t meant to be a battlefield.
If you choose to bedshare with your infant, follow these seven guidelines:
There is nobody in the house who is a smoker.Secondhand smoke affects infants’ breathing.
Breastfeeding parent must be sober.
If a partner is present, they must be sober as well.
This also applies to over-the-counter and prescription medications that may cause drowsiness.
Baby is breastfed.
Baby is healthy and full term. Premature infants and those who are sick may not be able to rouse themselves.
Baby is on their back. This is the safest position for babies, whether co-sleeping or not.
Baby is lightly dressed and un-swaddled.This avoids overheating and ensures that your baby is free to adjust their body.
Parent and baby are on a safe sleep surface (firm mattress) with:
No pillows or comforters near baby.
No cords or wires close by.
No other adults, older siblings, or pets. Newborns should only be in bed with a breastfeeding parent and/or partner.
If you choose to put your baby to sleep in a crib:
Still practice good sleep hygiene before bed. Simple, calm routines can go a long way before bed time.
You can still breastfeed/feed your baby to sleep. Falling asleep at the breast is not a “bad habit.”
Always place baby to sleep on their back and if using a swaddle, make sure it does not cover baby’s face or nose.
Responding to baby’s needs at night does not create life time of bad habits, but helps build connection and trust with your child.
If using a swaddle, limit daytime swaddling to help baby differentiate between daytime and night time.